I see you.
Sometimes you feel like you belong, but you've never really felt like you fit in. You're a sort of outsider who somehow finds themselves on the inside. It often seems as if this world wasn't created for you - you with all your passion, personality, ideas, and interests. When you hear phrases like "just pick one", or "find your niche", you feel your heart contract and your soul shrink a little. You've tried doing things the way you were told to and the way everyone else was, and you've tolerated it at best with some success, until it left you feeling burnt out, broken down, dazed, and confused - 'What's wrong with me!?"
Guess what... Me too.
As a youngster, I couldn't stand to sit in class and stare at a chalkboard and listen to someone speak all day; I wanted to be up at the front of the class learning about my classmates, educating them and entertaining them - and I got kicked out for it daily. I wasn't a bad kid; I yearned to express myself freely, and daydreamed of opportunities that allowed me to do what I love most - connect, create, experience, lead, inspire, and entertain.
As a big kid, I finally get to do all of those things, and then some, and I owe it to two defining moments:
The moment I finally cut the sh*t, stopped hiding who I was, and went all-in on me.
And, the moment I asked for help and opened up my mind, my heart, and my life to receive it.
Suddenly, opportunities that energized me and felt like they were actually meant for me began to flow into my life with ease.
Supportive friends and mentors started showing up in my life and relationships that de-energized me started to fall to the wayside.
I developed a sense of style, confidence and self-awareness that allowed me to feel supported within myself - it's as if I became a magnet, and everything I had so deeply desired but never allowed myself to declare I wanted came flowing into my life. I was in a completely different reality.
I remember a producer calling the boutique I was managing (he was selling advertising space) and deciding I was so unique that they had to have me on their daytime talkshow. I've been back over a dozen times. You see, everything that I suppressed in shame and fear is now the reason I've been able to create a life, a business, and relationships that reflect all of my zest, creativity, curiosity, and humanness.
I remember the first time I heard the words "How can I pay you," after spending 2 hours in a conversation where I helped a woman figure out what the f*ck she wanted to do with her own life - that was the moment I realized my dreams might not be pipe dreams, and that I might actually be able to create a life where I got paid to do all the cool sh*t I've always wanted to.
Now, I get to help folks like you create and align with what you desire most in your life and cut out all the other sh*t. I get to speak on television, speak at events, host my own show "It Just Got Reno", and lead kick-ass events, retreats and meetups throughout the year for lovers and leaders just like you. I get to work with companies to help them improve and transform their teams, and while improving the "5 P's" that matter most to them: people, purpose, planet, profit and productivity.
Getting to try and experience and create whatever the heck we want is one of the many perks of choosing to go all-in on ourselves instead of trying to fit into a way of life that wasn't created for us.
I see you, I was you, I am you.
Here's to taking the first step toward creating a life that reflects, celebrates, and rewards you for what makes you uniquely you.